This PR ensures `isDefEq` does not increase the transparency mode to
`.default` when checking whether implicit arguments are definitionally
equal. The previous behavior was creating scalability problems in
Mathlib. That said, this is a very disruptive change. The previous
behavior can be restored using the command
```
set_option backward.isDefEq.respectTransparency false
```
This PR adds a few unification hints that we will need after
`backward.isDefEq.respectTransparency` is `true` by default.
See #12338
It was part of #12179.
